Saturday, May 11, 2013

What I Learned About Boys (Part 2)


                TKO and I had been hanging out for a few weeks when I finally asked him to be my boyfriend. We went to the same middle school, but I was invisible to him until the end of eighth grade when he started popping up randomly with other people I knew. Throughout middle school, I had watched him date only the most beautiful girls. When he finally knew who I was, I understood my place as “one of the guys” for years before I was given reason to reconsider it.
                We had a mutual friend, who mutually ditched us whenever he got a new girlfriend. Either as a defense mechanism or as revenge we started to hang out without him. The third night I came over to play Zelda we ended up kissing. He initiated, and I was overjoyed to reciprocate. He had kissed me only one other time before that, but that was two years earlier on New Year’s Eve and he was completely blotto. I also found out later that he made out with any number of girls that night, so I had kept my excitement to a minimum. But this night we were both hands down sober and fully aware of what we were doing. After his game, he locked his piercing blue eyes onto mine and slid his fingers under my hair to pull my face closer to his. His free hand entwined with mine… and he was willingly, knowingly, and passionately kissing me with the softest lips I’d ever kissed. I was surprised as I had ever been. Suddenly I was cool enough, hot enough, and (not that it mattered to him) smart enough to snag the hottest boy in our neighborhood.
                It had been enough to be in his bedroom with all of his smells, and his guitar, and his bed. I was just fine in my place as the platonic girl who came over to play video games and help baby sit his little sister. It wasn’t until he started telling me things about himself, his life, his feelings, and his thoughts that I felt we were leaving the realm of “just friends.” And then, he confirmed it with that kiss. After that first kiss, it was just what we did after Zelda. It was very much like a new relationship, we built walls around us. When we were together we turned off our pagers. We didn’t answer the door or the phone. We became our mutual friend, and he, especially, took a backseat to our time together.
                It might have gone on forever like that. I’ll never know because I did the girl thing. I wanted more than what was being offered. I wanted exclusive rights to those lips, and that room, and Zelda, and the guitar. I wanted to eventually leave the room and rejoin society with him at my side. I wanted a commitment. He said no. He didn’t give a reason and I didn’t ask. He just said sorry, and I went home. Oddly enough, I didn’t cry over him, but I didn’t go back to his house after that. A part of me still really respects that he wouldn’t agree to something he didn’t want to do just so I would keep coming over. There are enough guys that say “yes” when they don’t want to and end up cheating and lying for the rest of their lives.
                TKO was yesterday and I was onto my next victim. It had actually been a couple of weeks, but I was in a pretty fresh relationship with a guy too old to live with his mother and too young to have a kid but did both. I was at work at McDonald’s and I was fetched from the back because someone had come to see me. TKO just asked what time I was off and if I would talk to him after. I told when and where, and he left.
                I spent the rest of my shift trying to psyche myself up for being stood up, but when I got off work he was waiting for me. I was impressed that he had shown up, duly moved even. We walked down the road toward his house. He told me he thought he might have made a mistake and that he wanted to try being with me and see how it went. I could smell the whisky on his breath, the sweetness stung in my nostrils. For once, I did the right thing; I did the unimaginable. I told him that I was no longer interested.  I even told him about my new beau and that I was really quite happy with how things turned out.
                We walked on anyway until we got to the edge of the park. He took my hand and we stopped in the road. I turned to face him and his breath was intoxicating. He locked his piercing blue eyes onto mine and slid his fingers under my hair to pull my face closer to his. He hesitated, studying my eyes as he swayed drunkenly in the moonlight. He wrapped his free hand around my waist and I could tell he was hard without even having kissed me yet. I let my face drop next to his and our cheeks touched. All I could smell was the whiskey on him, and I was suddenly overcome with a desire to taste it.
                When our lips met we tumbled onto the grass, and ended up making out in the trees at the park for an hour. I walked him home feeling a little tipsy myself in the heat of the summer night. When we got to his house I told him that it didn’t change anything. I was with the other guy now, and that’s the way it was. He said he understood and we parted ways.
                A few weeks later, when it wasn’t working out with the other guy, I doubted myself quite a bit. Fate had delivered me a gift and I refused it. Was it possible to fuck up destiny? It was impossible to tell. Whichever path you take, you’ll end up somewhere, right? The relationship that followed was with a nerd who had never even been with another girl, and it felt a hell of a lot better to be myself with him, than it did to be so worried about being cool enough for TKO. I came to realize that he was actually a lot cooler than TKO, sexier too, in ways. The image you have of people isn’t always who they are when you see them up close, drunk and stumbling, just as sad and confused as everyone else, wondering if it’s possible to fuck up destiny. I mistook TKO’s image for what he really was: just a teenager trying to figure things out.
               

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